Divine Mother Eva-Maria { Motherhood Photo+Interviews } Self Love, Infertility & a Journey through IVF

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Divine-Mothering Photo+Interviews

{ Divine Mothers of June Session 1 }

{ Eva-Maria }

Self Love, Infertility & a Journey through IVF

I started each session with one question. And that was “Why did you decide to come out today?” I wanted to hear about what was motivating women to take off their clothes and pose knowing there would be no retouching, glamour posing, or special hair and make up. I wanted to know, why women, mothers in particular, were so determined to share themselves with the world.

Eva-Maria responded with “I have been struggling with myself, and I finally came to the conclusion that I should cut myself some slack.”

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She continues “People tell me all the time how quickly I have recovered, or how slender I look so soon after having a baby. But the truth is, these people don’t know how frustrating it feels, when none of the clothes I own fit anymore, when my hips all of a sudden feel as wide as the channel of England, or how devastating it is when you loose tons of hair everyday due to hormone changes. After 40 weeks of beautiful skin and a wonderful birth my skin decided to tear about a week postpartum, leaving tiny little stretch marks – I can’t say I was prepared for that at all, I had already considered myself lucky to get away without stretch marks.”

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Eva-Maria also opened up about her struggles with infertility and her journey through IVF in an email after the session.

“Nothing will eat away on your soul like the unfulfilled wish for a child.

There were several occasions were I just wanted to stay at home and feel sorry for myself, instead of surrounding myself with my friends that were pregnant, or had babies. But I FORCED myself to go out there and feel happy for them. I did not want to become that person that start wishing ill for others, just because I cant have what they have. Even though, I understand that feeling, the logic in me finds that behavior quite childish and mean. So I chose happy thoughts for others and to surround myself with good energies.

The IVF cycle itself is painful. 3 needles every night for weeks and weeks, hormone roller coaster rides, stomach cramps, headaches, nausea, growing about 20 golfball sized follicles in me and then having them removed under full anesthesia. But multiply all the physical pains to get a good picture of the anxiety of the outcome, the 2 week wait, the hoping, the preparing for all options – a crazy time! It can break you, or it can make you very strong – yourself and your relationship.

I kept my sanity with the preparing of fresh organic vegan foods, yoga and being around people I love. Or even an occasional glass of wine. I believe, that only if mind and body are working together, there is a chance of an embryo nesting inside of you.”

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I loved that she even shared some advice for those who have friends and loved ones going through infertility.

Sentences to avoid when talking to an infertile couple:
“It will all work out” – Aha, how do you know?
“Life can be so fulfilled without children” – True. But learning to accept and move on is a yearlong, if not lifelong, challenge.
“IVF? So soon? Don’t you feel you are messing with God’s plan?” – No.

Best thing to say to an infertile couple:
“I don’t know what to say. This is just a real shit situation.”

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It was a true pleasure to meet Eva-Maria and her daughter and learn about her journey into motherhood. Even more wonderful to know that she was able to conceive the child she had been dreaming of, I know for many this is not the case. Eva-Maria is also proud and grateful to have experienced a safe, natural, and relaxed home birthing experience. Something that I know to be a privilege to experience.

Eva-Maria, you are so stunningly beautiful and your child is gorgeous, what a blessing it is to see you both together and smiling and filled with warm loving light. Thank you for joining me on this journey of discovering self love and appreciation for the temple that is our female form.

You are amazing.

You are beautiful.

You are truly divine.

Eva-Maria participated in Divine-Mothering Photo+Interviews of June Session 1, check out this blog post for more images of that session.

If you are interested in participating in this project, please check out the Divine Mothering Community on FB and click Events.

Photography by Liliana Beatriz Fotografia

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Posted on: June 15, 2015, by : Lotus_Lili

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